While some people have been lucky enough to marry the first person they dated a lot have bad to gone through a pool of people, meaning they had loads of breakups. Breakups are very heart breaking and people react to it differently. Some comforting words can be of help to someone who just got dumped/or who did the dumping either way. Words like…
1. “Be mature.” In this age of oversharing, it is way too easy to go on a social media rant about your ex, condemning him or her to the deepest pits of hell for screwing you over. Do not do this. When your feelings have settled, you’ll regret the things you said to hurt someone that you care so much about.
2. “There’s nothing wrong with you.” There isn’t. Despite the things that your partner may have told you, you are worthy of being loved and being cared for in a manner that is respectful, genuine and true. You do deserve it.
3. “I’m here for you.” Totally cliché? Absolutely, but effective nonetheless. Knowing that you can call on a friend to bawl your eyes out because your ex-partner posted a picture of a meal that you used to enjoy together is priceless.
4. “Let’s go get a drink.” Let a little loose. Once the liquid courage sets in, you may be better able to express your feelings to your friends (just have them hold your phone/keys for the rest of the night). Just please, don’t be that person in the bar, sobbing into your drink. No one can handle this person, least of all you.
5. “It’s no one’s fault.” Obviously, this can’t apply to every situation, but generally speaking, it isn’t your ex’s fault and it isn’t yours either. Sometimes, it just doesn’t work.
6. “Let it out.” Cry. Scream. Eat a bucket of chicken. Workout twice a day. Do what you need to keep those feelings from bottling inside of you. Just remember that these things are to help yourself feel better, not worse. Take care of yourself the best way you know how without going overboard.
7. “It’s his/her loss.” Not only that, but it’s your gain in the end. I believe that we’ve all got an intuition that lets us know if the person that we’re with is truly a good fit for us. You may overlook some things, but deep down, you know. Everyone that you come into contact with and end up falling for is meant for you to be with, no matter how much you may want it to be otherwise. Some people you come into contact and fall in love with simply aren’t good for us and when you are honest with yourself, you are free to revel in the benefits of not being with that partner.
8. “There’s plenty of fish in the sea.” Seems like a wading pool right now, right? Give it a few months and you’ll see it expand as you gain more space from your last relationship.